I’ve heard several stories about couples that suddenly stop having sex, start snapping at each other for stupid bs, your girlfriend who was so sweet and supporting becomes her mother, a raging, yelling psychopath, looking for excuses to be passive aggressive, inviting her friends back home when all you want to do is rest after your workday, your boyfriend, so passionate about you is suddenly cold towards you and wants to be left alone. Before having a child you were inseparable, now it’s like you hate each other and rant about your loved one with your friends…
I couldn’t survive such a radical personality change.
Does this phase eventually runs its course?
How do you find the mental fortitude to ignore the stupid bs your partner does or says?
How would you describe love to your partner a year after having a baby?
Is there any way to know if you and your partner are going to make it and remain a couple after having a child?
I am self-aware enough to know I would not cope with this well. I can’t imagine having to share my partner’s attention with something else in the relationship. Likewise, I enjoy focusing all my energies on her and her well-being.
There’s just no room for a baby. We had to have all these discussions before we got married obviously. Door left slightly ajar for adoption when we are in our 40s if we happen to have a change of heart in the next 10 years.