Whenever I talk or interact with people I feel I don’t talk like a “normal” person would nor I feel other people’s feelings towards me are positive.

Their interactions with me seem always cold and superficial and it’s not their fault. I told that to my psychologist, even asking whether I may be autistic or suffer from other conditions. She said I don’t, but heavy neglect affected me when I was a kid and it’s not possible for me to become like others, I can just work on myself. The problem is that I don’t know how to work on this. I really wish for somebody to point out evey mistake I make when I talk to them so I can know what I’m doing wrong.

Sorry it’s probably just venting but I genuinely got tired of that.

  • hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    7 days ago

    I’m wondering if your social group has something to do with it. Usually social circles have very distinct habits and patterns of behavior so this might be related.

    That said, if not, it could be more of a perception but it could also be real.

    And then the question is what can you change, and what should you change.

    I have autism, so I empathize with the inability to see yourself from the outside and to understand how much and in what ways behaviors affect others - but I’ve also learned that if you have friends, you can always ask them about it, and if they’re good friends, they will give you useful pointers. More useful than random people on the Internet anyway.

    So either it is they way you act or perceive things, which is stuff you can work on, or it’s a pattern of a specific friends circle, and that means maybe you just express yourself very differently and therefore it’s hard to relate to them.

    Anyway I wish you good look on figuring it all out and as someone who is constantly trying to improve, I’m sure if you take a hold of the root cause, you’ll quickly adapt :)