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Cake day: June 29th, 2024

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  • This is the thing making me lean more toward leaving than trying to change things. Even if Trump were magically impeached today, and our election system were left as near-intact as it is, somebody just like him could be just as likely to be elected in the next cycle. And odds are he’s going to pull off rigging the system to make sure that happens by then.

    I think that on a long term scale, to get at the root, something needs to be done about the media machine behind him. Culture eats policy for breakfast.









  • Flirting comes in a lot of forms. It should spring naturally, a fair bit more naturally with experience. But awkward flirting isn’t always a bad vibe either. On a date just let go of specific goals, be there to have a good time, being open to whatever that can entail as you connect. If you fixate on specific goals, you might overthink and become paralyzed when the date inevitably doesn’t go as planned. Try to be in a happy, relaxed headspace.

    Generally flirting is pretty important, because it should be a natural, unforced extension of both parties feeling safe, being light-hearted, and having fun. But don’t try to force it.



  • Then I’ll just quote it directly:

    "Here’s what all these complaints about federation choices reminds me of: every job I’ve ever had, new people get hired from time to time. What do they do? Long before they’ve had any time to get any training or learn how things work to maybe get a better understanding of why some things are done the way they are - day one, they start complaining about all kinds of little things, waxing fantastical about how they’d do things differently. Same energy.

    Nothing is perfect, and maybe things can be improved in a number of ways as time goes on. But also everything has a learning curve, so maybe try learning that curve before making demands about getting rid of the core elements that make federation what they are."

    That’s the thing: no matter how well a system is designed, there will always be a subset of people who find it confusing and frustrating. I’ve seen Facebook users who refuse to touch reddit because it makes no sense to them. People who never “got” Twitter. Hell, I love digging into operating system environments and learning how they work, and even I ragequit Apple devices every time I touch them - systems whose design is the most celebrated in the tech world.

    Learning new things is just uncomfortable, and there will always be people who refuse to do it.

    But the fediverse is here, and despite your gatekeeping attitude about it “never being adopted by the masses” because it doesn’t follow your personal views; it is growing just fine. New users come and go every day. New systems get federated regularly. Maybe a different reddit clone than lemmy will prove to be the most favored one? Who knows. But it’s doing just fine, one day at a time. And it’s open-source, so if you don’t like it, then code something about it.





  • If I send you (assuming you’re an average person) a link to lemmy.world, that site has a basic signup. That is the same as virtually any site. There is no functional difference between joining reddit, and joining a lemmy instance. The only difference is you’re not in a walled garden here.

    I know freedom is scary if you’re not used to it, but try it for a while. Once you get used to it, you’ll find the corporate web is stale and banal.

    You can’t expect things to be different if you’re applying old ways of thinking and looking at things, and trying to box the new into being the very thing you migrated away from.