It’s possible you’re conflating asocial and antisocial behavior.

Humans are social creatures and we communicate in more than just words. How you respond to people, or in this case don’t respond to people, says a lot to them. What the other person interprets may or may not be true. Frankly, humans are prone to storytelling so they have a tendency to presume the worst. If you aren’t reinforcing otherwise with your words and your behavior, then they will naturally become upset.

I’m really really glad to hear that you have people in your life that seem to care about you, ask about how you are, and provide various things for you. However, even though you may not feel like it for whatever reasons, refraining from reciprocating that behavior will starve out those relationships.

Human relationships are always quid pro quo. If you are receiving, then you will be giving something back. It doesn’t have to be one-to-one and not usually immediate.

If you want relationships of any kind to be healthy, then reciprocating when people invest into you is important. Again, it doesn’t necessarily have to be in the same way or amount, but there does have to be a response. Without that, the relationship becomes unhealthy or eventually over.

On a side note, I’m really proud to see you being forthright and honest with your mental health. I know it’s more commonly spoken about these days, but it can still be hard. I hope that you’re getting help as you navigate through it. You might find that some of the internal healing work you do will also positively affect the very relationships you are talking about in this post.

May your tomorrow’s be better than each today. 💜

For the first question, you might find answers more helpful if you ask the aforementioned people that you’re actually interacting with.

And regarding the second question, it’s probably related to the first. Young people who grew up texting and using social media have adopted abbreviated writing styles. Older people using the same technologies tend to retain more proper forms. Of course, people aren’t monoliths. There’s plenty of young people writing in complete sentences and plenty of older people utilizing short form words.

FYI: @[email protected] I figured out the problem and edited the OP to reflect that

I removed all my blocks completely. No change.

I also need to update my previous post to you because when I view the community while logged off from lemmy.ca, I can see all the recent posts.

It’s something specific to my account it seems…

From my phone browser via the webui:

When viewing while logged into Lemmy.ca, the second link (accessing the community from my instance) does NOT show any recent posts.

The first link takes me to the community at lemmy.world (not from my instance and logged out of Lemmy.world) and it shows all recent posts.

For this reason, I would say that it’s not synced. BUUUUTT…

If I go back to lemmy.ca, log out, log back in with my alt account… the two links you provided show all posts synced.

I think this is the kind of behavior that exists when you’ve been banned from a community 🤷🏽‍♂️, except I haven’t been banned.

I’m really confused.

Because people don’t realize refurbished printers is a thing?

Safe from what?

And who says it’s important?

Communication is important, but how you do that is always going to vary. “Flirting” is just one way to communicate.

“Being yourself” does not preclude personal development. Personal growth and learning skills, even something like flirting, is part of becoming a more well-rounded version of yourself.

Thing is, flirting isn’t something you need to master or even be great at. As a matter of fact, being “terrible” at flirting can be just as effective.

The goal of flirting is to engage in social interaction that expresses interest and attraction.

I think you’re putting too much pressure on yourself. You probably shouldn’t even call it flirting. Put that notion aside. Focus on intentionally communicating your interest.

If you’re interested in a person, then find ways to express that. It can be light-hearted and flirtatious, but being terrible at flirting works too. So do it terribly. You’ll eventually figure out what doesn’t help communicate your intent. Flirting is a gentle and indirect way of expressing that intent. Many people are more direct and it can work for them too. Being more direct may be better for you. 🤷🏽‍♂️

Regardless of what you do, be respectful. Be playful if you want. But most importantly, communicate your intent and desire.

To collude with billionaires in maximizing environmental damage.

Job security, you know?

I mean, it’s pretty unique. I’ve never heard of another person with a cartoon nose. Good for you!

Sportsball is meh, but Malala is incredible. I will always be a fan of hers. Thanks for the share. 💜

Watch some romance movies… even… Hallmark movies. Emulate no more than 20% of what you see and that will be sufficient. Too much more than that will cause an aneurysm. And realistically, normal human interactions are not nearly as concentrated as those movies. It’ll give you the basics.

In other words, you show romantic interest by showing romantic interest.

Shucks. So itty bitty in Boost.

But good enough for me until lay get better integration. Weee!

So thaattttssss how! Thank you!

Don’t worry, when I integrate into my software next week, i will certainly call it a deadzone. 😁

Today, I combined “deadzone” and revised it later to “dead zone” when I saw it written that way in other sources. No idea what’s correct because I don’t think it’s commonly used in many contexts.

All that to say–language is a human construct. Rules are made. Rules are broken.

I don’t know if there’s any actual rules on this in English, but I’m interested to find out. And then… I’ll do what I want anyway. 🙃

This… and I didn’t know how to reconcile it…

I think people like this need to be immediately referred to behavior health specialists. They are clearly in need of some serious healing. Regardless of how you feel, you don’t need to be a horrible human AND ruin things for others.

Why can’t they just be horrible humans… quietly?

r/outside

Why? Because I’ve now fooled you and don’t have to be confined to a game cartridge. Muahahahaha.

(Side note: It’s been a long time since I’ve been on reddit. I miss that community.)

maniacal laugh