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My dad was old New Orleans and oh my God the restaurants there are so good that when my brother was in school there he literally never cooked, never learned to cook, at all. They have such a ridiculous tradition of hospitality, absolutely top notch food, drink, and service.

Gumbo I make once in a while and it can make people cry, it’s so good, that can certainly be one of the most delicious things ever if you take your time with it, but my best memory of food there is the soft shell crab po boy with the legs hanging out of the sandwich.

Tampa FL, our local dishes are:

Chicken and yellow rice, with black beans and fried sweet plantains.

Deviled Crab (sort of a croquette with crabmeat in the middle)

Cuban sandwich (called that but really it’s a Florida thing and the cuban bread in Tampa from La Segunda Central is the absolute ideal)

Cafe con leche and cheese toast (cheese on cuban bread, pressed) for breakfast is heavenly.

Guava and cream cheese in various arrangements is also one of the things I don’t see everywhere, but is so delicious, I don’t think it’s local exactly but is all around here.

I asked to pick up the curly hair one here, but admins are so busy, and with the mod gone I can’t ask her. I don’t want to make ANOTHER one, that seems worse.

I was quite skinny but 5’9" and not so leggy. If they are thigh highs I’d buy your regular size and just let them end a little lower, that looks good. For pantyhose I would look more for “Medium - Tall”, Long Tall Sally make some, Foot Traffic has tall tights, or see also if you can find any that say sky high rise, that might work. Because often they slide because they don’t reach the natural waist on tall ladies, the rise can be more problematic than the inseam because tall women are not short women on stilts, but brands seem to think so.

35" hips on 6’ also sounds like you may want to exercise though?

I know that’s not what you are asking! But I bulked and went from 32-30-33 to 38-31-42, and my legs went from 18" to 23". So more conventionally ‘pretty’ proportions and people still seem to think I am lean and slender.

Oh the chubby cheeks to jowls slide is real, and I think that’s part of it. Also lower teeth showing more than upper.

No car picture? There is always a picture of the guy sitting in his car. Always.

Not at all.

I grew up in a big family, in a busy household. My kids laugh at me because when reading (and it really is only when I am reading) I tune out everything. They would be yelling “mom! MOM!” and I wouldn’t notice.

Yes. Especially if you are not even working on it and just say “that’s how I am”, because it implies a complete disregard for how your actions (actions, not feelings) affect other people.

It’s exhausting to be around someone who is always angry. That doesn’t mean there is nobody who would “like you for you” but it will limit your potential pool of friends a lot, yes.

I was walking in the neighborhood recently and passed a guy putting a pigeon in a high up box in his yard. It was such a an odd thing that I wasn’t sure what was going on, and mentioned to my daughter that I thought this guy was keeping pigeons, and she said “because you saw him KEEPING PIGEONS?” Which I guess is fair, it just was so weird I wasn’t sure!

I don’t know if he uses them to send messages, but some people certainly have them at least as pets.

If that’s possible nobody should be able to be rich, because it depends on everyone else being poor. I do agree that if you take care of yourself you can do more good in the world, but the relentless flow of money upward and industry set up to exploit the poor need to be dismantled.

This is absolutely a real thing. I had a calorific breakfast sandwich for breakfast this morning, a diet coke for lunch, it’s been 8 hours, not close to hungry yet. My kids think it’s odd, that I should be hungry at lunch regardless but I think that’s the way appetite is supposed to work, they just haven’t quite stopped growing yet.

That’s why people will see a skinny person eating a whole pizza and think “WTF”? They don’t see that the person is then full until next day lunchtime or whatever.

My husband says if you push past that and eat (he bulked once) that your appetite adjusts and you get bigger and hungrier. But bodies generally want to sort of stay the size they are, so don’t signal “eat, dammit!” if you have funded it enough to maintain.

Orange is the new white!

If she doesn’t know how to please herself, you are gonna have a hard time figuring it out. Plus if you get to 25 or however old and haven’t, do you even have a sex drive? This is the worst marriage advice I’ve ever heard.

A literal paddling for being late to homeroom in middle school. Bad as schools are now, they have been worse.

Also, wearing a mini skirt on a football game day, when the cheerleaders had to come to school in their uniforms (skirts much shorter than mine.) this is the only time my mom backed me up, she said it was stupid and picked me up I was not in trouble. Dress code should be the same for everyone, if you have one.

I think it’s an ok question, just tell them there’s no wrong answer. Sometimes people say “culture fit” as some kind of code for discrimination, but I don’t think that taste in music or books is a protected category, lol. I am just not sure it’s going to work to do what you want. Some of the guys are work who come ooh and ah over my geeky cube decor are nice and some are assholes, there doesn’t seem to be a correlation and some of my favorite people at work are so different from me if spun on that axis, like they drink wine and go see romantic comedy or football games, or reality TV (blech) but are so great to work with.

It is absolutely ok to try to build a good team that can work together. That makes a better working environment for sure. I hope you can influence the selection process, you do sound like a good boss.

These are two separate questions. Is the person into sci fi and is the person an asshole because they think people in lower ranked positions are inferior as people.

If you asked me my favorite sci fi and I said it was the Black Science comics, or Atomic Robo, is that a yes or a no? And how does it tell you whether I’m an asshole to people in junior positions? I work with a set of diverse people who are all pretty cool but I don’t think that most of them are, well, “like me” in a standard cultural sense. In fact I know they aren’t.

I had a boss who would interview people with relevant questions but most of what he was looking for was people who were not afraid of him, lol. He was a very intense person and you had to be able to push back if you thought he was wrong.

I think if you made it funny it might be ok, it is a question that would put me, personally, at ease, but how are these yuppies sneaking through your screening at all? It’s not evident in the interview?

You can identify however you want and I think pansexual is correct because you are attracted to the person not their gender, you just lean straight.

Hmm, I don’t wear pantyhose but as a tall-ish woman with a long rise (distance between crotch and waist) I do sometimes have problems with allegedly high waisted garments that are too small in the waist because they are trying to close around my hipbones. That is wildly uncomfortable, yes. But if they are really so high waisted that they reach my natural waist, they are so comfortable.

So I think your pantyhose are just too small in some dimension, maybe try a bigger size or see if you can find some that are labeled “tall”.

I would call it grain flavor, they have a slight natural sweetness and mild, almost creamy flavor I wouldn’t call it bland exactly, but subtle, yeah.