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Cake day: July 19th, 2023

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  • Had this conversation with my wife early in our marriage. I got the, “fine, I’m wrong, you’re right. You’re always right.” And I said, “I’m not always right. I’m often wrong. I just don’t make a big deal out of it, apologize if I need to, and we all move on and you forget about it. You remember all the times you’re wrong because it always turns into a conversation like this.” Then she started noticing and started being more chill about being wrong (she grew up in a VERY shitty household with a narcissist mother where admission of wronghood was an opportunity to get absolutely shit on).

    It’s amazing how a simple, “oh, you’re right, my bad” can improve your life and reputation.







  • For some context, I am in the military and will be retiring in five years at the age of 47. So I won’t need to work, but I want to find fun work that I want to do after. I think I’m the type that will wither and die within a year of retiring from any work. I’m not self-motivated enough to create work for myself, and I need to be doing something or I’ll sleep 18 hours a day and feel useless the rest of the time. I need a schedule, and I need someone else to make it.



  • Honestly, that sounds like some refreshing fun. Have the cook with a big grill out front, and putting in the order is just chatting with them.

    “Hey, bud, you want a burger, hot dog, steak, or some of this brisket I been smoking since this morning? Want something to drink? There’s beer and soda in the cooler, or we got tap water. The little cooler has juice for the little’uns.”

    And then have a cashier keep track of what they had, conveyor-belt sushi style. The cook chats with whoever is standing around drinking a beer with them (and is drinking beers or soda or whatever all shift), and everything gets served on paper plates. And the tables are all those wooden picnic tables with cheap plastic tablecloths.

    And those who are eating there are encouraged to stand around and chat with other people as well (if they want). Just make the whole thing like a backyard barbecue with your neighbor Hank.

    And hire nothing but retired men and women working part time as the cooks. Nothing but grill daddies and mommies, working just for some extra cash and the fun of barbecuing. I would take that job when I retired in an instant.

    Edit: better yet, make it habachi-style, where there’s a grill daddy/mommy for every group or two, set up like a park barbecue. I love this and want to go to one or work at one now.





  • And honestly, that present two days a year is a drop in the bucket of debt if you’re already dealing with debt.

    I’m not saying putting yourself in $3k of credit card debt to take your kids to Disneyland is totally worth it, but if you’re several thousand in debt and scraping, that ~$100 present twice a year won’t be the thing that breaks you, and is worth cutting costs elsewhere on a regular basis.