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Cake day: August 4th, 2023

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  • First off, be careful. Make sure you aren’t putting yourself in danger. Don’t talk to them. Talk to someone who can do something to protect you. HR if it’s a work thing or the police if it rises to that level. If in doubt, err on the side of caution. If something like HR or police aren’t an option, ghost them.

    I hesitate to even go on. So let me reiterate. Aggressiveness is the kind of red flag you don’t want to take lightly.

    All that said, if none of the above helps; if you’re talking about something other than fear for your personal safety (and again, please don’t let denial blind you here), then: don’t talk about their behavior. Talk about how you feel. Say that you feel nervous/on edge/scared when they behave in whatever way you’re alluding to.





  • “About once a year?”

    And it sounds like right now you’re just out of the tail end of one of these once-per-year episodes?

    If this isn’t already on your radar, I strongly suggest trying out a SAD (seasonal affective disorder) lamp.

    I’m (pretty certain I’m) not autistic. And it’s possible the (arguably) somewhat similar episode I’ve had over the recent yule season was less severe than what you’re describing.

    But I think I can at least somewhat relate. And I think a big part of what contributed to that problem for me was just not getting enough light in my eyeballs, particularly in the morning.

    My technique (when I finally figured out SAD was a big part of my problem) was to put my SAD lamp right next to my bed pointing right at my head and turn it on when I first wake up in the morning and then go back to sleep with the light shining in my eyes.

    Even if your issue is 100% SAD (and it sounds like that probably isn’t the case if you have “suspected schizophrenia”) a SAD lamp may not be enough. It couldn’t hurt to preemptively start regular appointments with a therapist starting in like… October or something every year anticipating a difficult season. Your GP might have some options for you as well.

    Good luck. That kind of shit sucks.









  • doesn’t stop the worry.

    As someone who makes a lot more money than I did previously, I’d say it largely does, at least for me.

    I don’t spend anywhere near as much time:

    • Budgeting
    • Looking at my bank account balance
    • Deciding what needful thing I’ll neglect this month

    In short, I spend less time thinking about money, which means I spend less time worrying about money.

    It’s not like I don’t worry at all about money, but I do worry a lot less of the time, and less intensely.

    At this point, honestly, I think having more income might make me more stressed than I am now. Though I would like to be able to quit my day job for a business I own myself, maybe. As long as the income was reliable.



  • Do we really think there’s a significant number of Trump voters out there who regret their vote? Really?

    It seems far more likely to me that most Trump voters are doubling down. “Prices are going to come down way lower than they were before Trump took office. This is actually Biden’s fault. Prices are going down, actually. Particularly eggs, depsite what the woke MSM would tell you. In fact, eggs are cheapest in states with the least restrictive gun regulations and highest deportation rates for illegals. Prices have never been this low. Trump is making Mexico pay our grocery bills.”

    Sure, you can find one or two people who will claim to be regretful Trump voters. (Just like you can find a very few microbiologists who swear the universe was created in six literal days around 6,000 years ago.) But I can’t imagine any significant number of Trump voters having that much self awareness and intellectual honesty.