you don’t need to give social advise to a neurotypical person

Supremely disagree.

Here’s a podcast episode I’ve heard today to illustrate the example of just how bad most “neurotypical” can be with simple social interactions:

Hidden Brain: We Need to Talk

Episode webpage: https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/we-need-to-talk/

Media file: https://dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/tracking.swap.fm/track/0bDcdoop59bdTYSfajQW/stitcher.simplecastaudio.com/df179a36-a022-41e3-bf7c-b7a4efc6f51e/episodes/1f69dbf5-87e8-41ec-8014-f494020218d4/audio/128/default.mp3?aid=rss_feed&awCollectionId=df179a36-a022-41e3-bf7c-b7a4efc6f51e&awEpisodeId=1f69dbf5-87e8-41ec-8014-f494020218d4&feed=kwWc0lhf

It is ALWAYS bad advice. “Be yourself” is the most pointless thing to say to anyone. It doesn’t help the recipient at all. Same for “be a better person”. You could say “be genuine” and that would be slightly more helpful.

From my background in education: under-performers tend to be poor judges of their position, tend to have no idea what good performance looks like or how to get there, and tend to surround themselves with similar under-performers. So someone who is underperforming in a social role (making friends, fitting into their work place, dating, etc) needs a lot more focused and good quality feedback.

Pass the bleach eyedropper after you’re done with it please.

Be yourself = live true to your own principles

Try to change = better yourself to get closer to those principles + other secondary goals

Improving yourself can, of course, mean finding better principles to live by, as that may be where the problem was in the first place.

The “i” is offensive. The rest of the word is OK.

People making content for NSFW subreddits makes sense to me now that there’s good money to be made.

I didn’t really understand the motivation before when so many people made regular content for internet strangers for nothing. Especially when so many of the comments are so sleazy and rapey.

Fellow OpenSUSE Chad 🤙

Where/how do I check or know what impact that has? I think this just further strengthens the point that Lemmy is not welcoming to normal users at all and is just for specialist nerds.

Makes sense once there’s enough of a userbase…but currently there isn’t a huge amount of content of interest on Lemmy and sticking to a local instance just limits this even more. Currently I have to stick to “all” as even areas of subscription can run out of content with a quick scroll session.

I’m pretty techie and I’ve been here for months. I still don’t fully understand why it matters and how a different instance would have changed my experience. The fediverse is so fragmented, it would be dumb to stick to one instance. My app is always set to browse “all”. Everyone commenting seems to be from different instances. I’m certainly not going to start reading about different instances at signup when it presents the fact that you will be able to access all instances anyway. I picked randomly from one of the most popular choices. This whole process of a selection of an instance sounded good to software engineers, and sure this is how the technology fits together…but these are “back end” issues that I (and other normies) don’t care about at all. Users do not want to get into the weeds of how the back end works and it is certainly off putting.

This is some real boomer shit.

If I get to my dentist on time, he makes me wait 20 min.

If I get to my dentist 10 min late he refuses to see me.

I do this with the Boost for Lemmy app on Android and it works great.

They should have just gone from Xbox 2 to Xbox 4 to keep up. Or start making after the year of release or something. Or even following anything sequential (like letters of the alphabet with what Android used to do). Anything that made logical sense.

“Get the gimp”

OK. Exploitation of labour then I guess.

Why do I see so many slaves defending the system of tip slavery?

Tumbleweed brotherhood ✊

It doesn’t get used or recommended enough.

https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/btw-i-use-arch

You may think you’re new…but clearly you have the spirit of a Linux veteran.

Arch btw

😆