I’d say Minecraft’s multiplayer experience is close to what Anon describes as “good multiplayer”, probably because it hasn’t changed much in 15 years - there’s not even an in game server browser (at least on the Java edition), and playing Minecraft in and of itself is usually a big time commitment so you’re more encouraged to find a couple of servers you like and stick to them.

However, the last time that I feel like I integrated into a server’s community was 4 years ago - a blank server list doesn’t really encourage you to go looking for more, and it’s been harder to commit time as I get older and have more responsibilities (that I ignore anyways, but still).

I think Lethal Company also has a lobby system without matchmaking, but I haven’t played it so I don’t really know.

My theory is he doesn’t remember, keeps trying to, and then makes a new post about it when he remembers

If you still want to make the game despite that, I’d recommend watching some of Pirate Software’s youtube shorts for motivation. He’s got some great gamedev advice.

This one that he uploaded today feels relevant: https://youtube.com/shorts/TBxhiw-Hpxc

I’ll hold myself back from sharing more for now, in case you don’t care. And also because it’s 3 am.