I don’t. Honestly no one should respect me.

I’m not sure why any of this is somehow a red flag. Your partner is going to be dating you, not your family.

Maybe my experience isn’t the norm, but I find that a significant portion of people I meet have fucked up families.

Yes, people often ask about families when meeting each other, but it’s perfectly fine and common enough ime to say that you aren’t close with/don’t have a good relationship with one or multiple family members.

My advice would be to keep it brief and somewhat vague at first…just stating what I said above should be sufficient enough. You’re getting to know each other, but you’re not there to learn every single intimate detail about every moment of someone’s life. Don’t go into a long tirade or story about anything at first. Over time, you will get to know each other and can slowly talk about more bits and pieces with time.

Thank you for your kind words. One of my siblings did end up going no contact with my father, actually. I don’t really agree with the particular way he went about it (long story), but I more than support the outcome tbh.

Honestly, I feel like there was an opportunity I had during the divorce where it would have made sense for me to go no contact with him. But he was very good at trying to make me feel bad for him at the time (I mean, we are all only human after all), and he even went and unprompted bought me a fucking car. I actually was going to refuse it, but was convinced otherwise. Through the years I’ve found that the interactions between my father and I can be mutually beneficial in their own ways, though I feel bad at times because I view what he did as unforgivable honestly.

We moved across the country from him and it has been nice that way for several years…I only see him a couple times per year. The frustrating part is he plans to move to my part of the country when he retires next year. I’ve repeatedly tried to reiterate to him that I am not going to suddenly see him every week because he moves here, but he doesn’t seem to get the message. Honestly I’m at a loss as to what to do when that eventually occurs. Part of me kind of wishes he’ll die before then so I won’t have to worry about it.

Anyway, I know you didn’t ask for that, but I appreciate the time you’ve taken and the words you’ve spent.

Truly a shitpost

Found it in the wild? Why does it look like AI? Is there some sort of funky post processing happening?

I mean, here’s another thought…

A lot of animals in the wild stink. Seriously. Check out a farm or a zoo. It’s quite possible that people just used to generally smell bad before the modern age.

But I guess a positive to this is, you know how you get used to a smell if you’re around it all the time? Like say you eat McDonald’s in your car on a long car journey. Nothing is out of the ordinary smell wise to you. But then you get to your destination and leave your car for a few days. You come back and notice it smells like shitty old McDonald’s because you had been away from it for a bit. What I’m getting at is if we were around stinky people all day we maybe weren’t bothered by it as much because you can go “nose blind” to that sort of thing after being exposed to it often.

It’s interesting how many people don’t realize this. We were having a casual discussion one day and one of the smartest people I know, who has been educated in a lot of science, didn’t realize that neutral or even outright negative traits can occur and persist in evolution. Evolution doesn’t create a perfect being. It’s just creates those that can survive long enough to reproduce better than those that can’t do it as well.

Is that an obvious plant logo lol

No one knows. It’s a diagnosis of exclusion. It’s a lot more common in infants (although still relatively uncommon), and significantly less common in kids. There are some types of conditions that you can’t really tell at autopsy though. So if the heart suddenly starts beating out of whack or if someone had a seizure, there is not necessarily going to be evidence of that for you to know what happened, unfortunately.

What the fuck. I mean, it’s terrible already but to have the fucking balls to just do that out in the open??? The fuck??

Possibly was listening to my sweet mom crying and softly begging my dad to stop raping her in the other room. I was in denial about it tbh. He was a verbally abusive man, but I never knew that it extended to anything physical. He was not shy about screaming at her in front of us kids, so I honesty didn’t think I was correctly interpreting what I was hearing at the time. Both my patients were very quiet during this event. So I’m not sure how often it happened. I didn’t help my mom or anything at the time like an asshole…I just wasn’t sure what really happened.

It was only many years later when I stumbled across some PDF files of divorce paperwork where she stated that he would rape her. She chose much softer language in the paperwork, carefully avoiding the “r-word”, but I knew she wasn’t lying because of what I remembered. She did say that he often wasn’t very physically “successful” at it, which I guess is a bit more comforting? Anyway, this absolutely and totally enraged me. I fantasized about ways I would torture this man. But alas I never did anything of use and continue to allow this man to speak to me and spend time with me. I’m an asshole for it, really.

Much less significant, but there was also a time where my brother repeatedly tried to record videos of me naked and didn’t stop even after he got caught. That was such an intense violation of my privacy and permanently changed the way I feel about him and view him tbh. We have an ok relationship now, but I’ll never forget it.

Idk. I put my cart back but I have heard an occasional decent argument why someone wouldn’t.

One of the biggest ones is a single parent shopping alone with multiple small children. I get that ideally the cart corral probably isn’t super far away, but leaving small kids alone for even a short period of time must be nerve wracking and not always safe depending on the area and climate.

Wow…I played that way too fucking long lol. Then my phone screen froze and I figured it was time to stop playing.

Edit: I opened up my laptop to play and it seemed like it was begging for death from all the things on the screen lol. Was fun, though!

I’m not really sure where a not strict abusive parent fits.

Life is short and it’s also a balance. It’s ok to buy yourself something fun from time to time. :) The key to anything is moderation.

So I am from the northern US. I was speaking to someone from the southern US and they said the word “cement”. I had to do a double take and think hard about what they were saying. To me, it sounded like she was saying “semen”. I am basically a child and thought it was hilarious.

I really, really feel you on the first paragraph. Humans are social creatures. But there is so much difficulty that goes in line with that. I struggle almost every single fucking day with people, yet I need them and want them.

Aww I’m sorry to hear. I hope the best for you, internet stranger. Your feelings matter. I know what it feels like when it seems like they don’t. Hope the rest of your weekend goes ok.

I’m using the Voyager app, but I don’t see a caption on mine?? Is there some setting I need to enable?

In my experience, piracy sites are usually riddled with ads even with a good ad blocker.