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That really makes no sense, considering that OP provided pronouns, they/them.

OP’s partner’s pronouns are they/them.

In that case: Thank you for speaking up and good riddance. A shame they’re not taking their position seriously and do what they’re supposed to do: Abide by the rules and making sure all participants do so, too. There’s real harm coming from letting autism speaks propaganda stand like that.