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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • I want to bandwagon onto this comment, as I fully agree. Buy timeless and good quality clothing.

    I’m not overly trendy, but I always dress well. If you’re not interested in chasing trends, make it so you can dress well without paying attention. A few high quality t-shirts, several pairs of good (maybe even expensive) jeans and/or chinos, a couple of jackets/blazers to step it up. Some dress shirts and some accessories (belts, shoes, etc). Some of the best pieces I have are old fashions: houndstooth, solid colors, plaids of various styles, and etc.

    I would also advocate for supporting sustainable, or at least local, clothing companies as much as possible, but that’s a personal value.

    Finally, don’t chase fashion. I had a modelling coach once who gave me the most important piece of clothing advice I’ve ever received: it’s not what you’re wearing, it’s how you feel wearing it. If you feel good, you’ll stand a little taller, smile a little more easily, and bring your best self to meet the world. I was wearing a $20 Walmart blazer. Just some food for thought. Good luck and have fun with it!





  • I’ll piggy back on your comment, I was gonna say something similar (and I fully agree with it 😊)

    With only the information you provided, it sounds like you’re potentially navigating some high functioning depression, maybe some meaninglessness. They can go hand in hand, and much of the joy of life is lost when/if you’re depressed with no personally meaningful direction.

    Therapy is a good starting point, or even just some gentle self analysis of what may have led you to these feelings (as opposed to the symptoms of it, which it looks to me like what you described).

    It’s a process, and it can take a very long time to learn how to be gentle enough to listen to yourself without judgement. So in addition to therapy, I’d add meditation to allow yourself space and journaling with personally directed questions (e.g., what do I feel, what may have led me to feel this way) that might grant you insights. Dig for what means something to you, and find a way to make it your reality.

    One final thought - do try getting out there and connecting. It’s hard, irritating, and exhausting. But sometimes we spend so much time in our own space/heads that we ruminate ourselves into a quagmire. Ppl and activities corner that rumination to fewer hours of the day, and gives us a break from our own thoughts.

    As poster above said, you’re not even 40 - lots of years of beauty, hope and meaning to be found and loved, though it can take time to really get there :)

    All the best, OP