I’ve heard several stories about couples that suddenly stop having sex, start snapping at each other for stupid bs, your girlfriend who was so sweet and supporting becomes her mother, a raging, yelling psychopath, looking for excuses to be passive aggressive, inviting her friends back home when all you want to do is rest after your workday, your boyfriend, so passionate about you is suddenly cold towards you and wants to be left alone. Before having a child you were inseparable, now it’s like you hate each other and rant about your loved one with your friends…
I couldn’t survive such a radical personality change.
Does this phase eventually runs its course?
How do you find the mental fortitude to ignore the stupid bs your partner does or says?
How would you describe love to your partner a year after having a baby?
Is there any way to know if you and your partner are going to make it and remain a couple after having a child?
Sleep deprivation is literally a torture technique. I am thankful that people do choose to try to raise children with this in mind, but it just sounds like literal torture to me. Even with people who tell me how much they supposedly love raising kids, I see the immense pain and suffering that they go through literally all the time.
My guess is that some powerful hormones must be released or something after having a child to make people think that they are enjoying their life even though an outside observer can view their immense suffering.
It’s partly that, and partly that the brain needs sleep to form memories and to think things through to conclusion - so we (parents) are all a little delusional and don’t really remember how hard the early part was.
(I adore my kids!)
Pro tip: smell their heads as often as possible. There’s all kinds of healthy chemical bonding that comes from that delightful fresh baby head smell.