My co-worker is young and reckless while I’m twice his age and supposedly normal. We often get stuck together for 10 hour days so we talk a lot. I don’t share too many emotional details with him but occasionally like to let loose a bit to fuck with him. He seriously told me I’ve said some things that really scared him. But he won’t tell me what they are!
When you mistake “how are you” for a serious question…
German in america woes
Like, why even ask If you don’t care
Well, I live in Germany (and have always lived here) and it’s part of the greeting ritual. Why say hello when you expect no other answer than hello back
When I’m ill or something, I have to consciously work against the tendency to say I’m good.
I live in germany as well, und bin auch von hier. I still can’t recall the last time an acquaintance or friend would ask me this without actually wanting to know the answer though. Albeit I do know the sort of meme way of asking “Läuft?” - “Muss muss” as well. But that feels more analogous to the english howdy, a way of asking the question entirely as a greeting.
The way Americans do it seems more like asking your friend "hey, wie geht’s dir denn so in letzter zeit”.
Yeah, that’s a common misunderstanding. When they want a lengthy discourse regarding your status, they’ll instead say, “Tell me of the waters of your homeworld, Usul.”
i rambled the other day about how I already have a headstone in the ground with my name on it; my first wife died when I was 32. Said it’s easy, I’ll just make sure I “go” right in front of it so nobody has to worry about cleanup. Was joking in a dark way, around my peer firefighters. Realized there were teens listening who were boggled I have a stone already. I’m fine.
Honestly, that’s just a very responsible thing to do. Good for you
well to be honest at 32 I didn’t figure I would marry again. Though I did years later. My wife now understands as much as one can and knows my wishes. (cremate. 50 in first plot 50 anywhere else. :) )